What’s a rich life look like to you? This is something that’s really important for everyone to figure out. If you have a vision for what you want your life to look like then you’ll be more likely to stay on course through the ups and down that will inevitably happen. Just daily motivation isn’t enough. Watching Rocky or getting hyped up every day isn’t going to last long term, although watching Rocky is always a good idea. You need something pulling you forward, your vision can do that for you. A rich life can be very different for everyone and likely will keep changing throughout your life, and that’s ok.
Right now a rich life for me means having the financial freedom to travel when I want, if I feel like flying my friends and I to Hawaii for the weekend to go surfing(even if I suck at it) I want to be able to do that. being able to fully and only work on the things that excite me even if they don’t generate money right away, things I’m passionate about. It means having deep friendships with people that I love spending time with and are on a similar path as me. It means having a relationship with a woman that challenges me, that excites me, and that I love deeply.
This is what a rich life looks like for me right now. You’ll notice that for a lot of them it doesn’t even involve having more money because I believe that’s not the most important thing but it is a tool that can enhance your life. That’s the vision I see for myself right now and what pulls me and motivates me on a daily basis. I’m not there yet, but it’s what motivates me.
If you would’ve asked me 5 years ago it would’ve been completely different. It would’ve been something like partying with Playboy bunnies at the mansion, flying private to Vegas and being on stage with the DJ’s, things like that. And even if those things are superficial, they are fun and there’s nothing wrong with that. It depends what stage of your life you’re in.
The best thing to do before you do anything else is figure that out. It doesn’t even have to be very detailed in the beginning, that’ll come with time. Maybe right now yours is that you want to get better at dating and be able to approach any girl confidently. And that’s great, starting with something small is better than having no idea.
I would caution against only focusing on girls though. This is what I did when I started learning about all this more than 10 years ago and it lead to a lot of fun, but didn’t really make me happy long term. And when I would get serious about a girl I was way too invested in her because girls was my only focus. So all that focus would go on one girl which is a lot of pressure for her, not to mention very needy on my part.
Ironically you’ll notice when you have something you’re passionate about that women will be more attracted to you and want to be with you long term. So figuring this out is win win for you. Start as small or as big as you want, but make sure it’s what you actually want. Not what your friends want, your girlfriend or the girl you’re trying to get want, not your parents, not what’s idealized in social media, but what you want. If you want to live in a hut in Nepal by yourself then write that down, hopefully that’s not it because that seems a little lonely to me but to each their own.
So if you don’t know what a rich life looks like for you it’s really easy to figure out. You just start imagining and dreaming like when you were a kid. So put your phone and computer away for a few hours, go old school with that notepad and pen. Then just start imagining what your ideal life looks like if there were no limits to how extravagant you could go.
Look at it through a child’s eyes where anything is possible. Write it all down. Circle which ones really excite you when you imagine them and then start getting specific. The more specific you are the stronger the pull will be for you to achieve it. One of my favorite books ever, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, talks about this. You’re basically creating a burning desire for what you want. That is one of the keys of success and every successful person will tell you that they had a vision for what they wanted their life to look like.
Because if you’re not excited imagining how it would look like then you’re not going to keep pushing when things get harder or you don’t have the success right away. In dating it’ll go like roller coaster sometimes. You’ll have times where you’re on a roll and everything you’re learning is just clicking. You’re going on 5 dates a week with beautiful interesting women and you think I got this, I’m a master jedi now.
Then maybe few weeks later you’ll get nervous again even approaching. That’s ok, just keep that vision written down of what you want and imagine it in your mind then all these little bumps in the road won’t affect you at all. They’ll just be stories that you have from your journey. Go ahead and grab a pen and paper, then feel free to share it below.