Online dating is here to stay whether we like it or not. I have mixed feelings about dating from the apps. On the one hand it’s made getting dates so easy and convenient, but on the other hand it’s made getting dates so easy and convenient. That’s not a typo, easy and convenient is both good and bad. It’s a double edged sword.
The quantity of dates you can get is much higher than it’s ever been. You could go on 7 dates a week easily if you know what you’re doing. But it can also make you really lazy in meeting people in real life. You remember that way you used to meet people? Before it was right and left swipes. When you have these apps you’re less inclined to talk to the girl you see in the coffee shop or the pretty girl you see in the book store. You’re less motivated to go out to the bars.
You might only be going on dates from online apps. That means you’re missing out on a ton of great women you could be meeting outside of your phone. There’s women that don’t use dating apps at all, although they’re in the minority right now. And even if the quantity of women you meet through online dating is higher, you will likely be meeting a lot of women that aren’t exactly your type because you didn’t really talk to them before going on your first date.
People’s texting personalities can be vastly different than their personalities in person. I’ve met many girls that seemed really fun and interesting in text and then turned out to have the personality of a brick in person. (a brick doesn’t have a ton of personality fyi)
We’ve all been on dates where the girl shows up not looking like her pictures. She shows up 10 years older than her pictures or 100 lbs heavier than her profile picture. I’m not being mean here, but there’s nothing worse than misrepresenting yourself. That goes for both guys and girls.
It can be easy to get jaded from online dating. I’ve talked to both girls and guys that say how tough it is to meet quality people. Then you ask where they meet most of their dates and it’s mainly online dating. If that’s the only way you’re going on dates then it’s easy to get jaded. In a lot of ways it’s better to meet people in real life. That way you meet and talk to them in an organic way and see if you like each other at all before going on a date.
It’s better to go on high quality dates that you enjoy than a plethora of dates. Unless you’re trying to go on a dating binge you’re better off having higher standards and wasting less of your time. Of course, if you’re brand new to dating and haven’t had a lot of experiences then quantity is definitely ok in that case. You’ll learn quicker that way and enjoy it in the beginning since it’s brand new for you.
For the guys that are looking for a girl they potentially want to be in a relationship with I would definitely recommend mixing in online dating with all the other ways you meet girls. Not solely online. If you haven’t met any potential dates recently and you don’t see a lot of girls regularly in your life then you can make changes to make that happen.
Start learning new skills and learn them in a social environment. For example learning how to dance can be a great one. There’s usually more girls than guys and you’ll be learning a skill that is fun and one that naturally lets you meet more women.
Even sports can be great ones, just find co-ed ones. For example join a co-ed soccer league. There’s so many opportunities if you really look for them. The great thing is you don’t have to do what some PUA’s recommend and go to bars 4 nights a week and basically become an approaching machine. Don’t become the terminator of dating, as cool as that title sounds.
Online dating is still a great tool in meeting women, but it’s important to not make it your only way of meeting women. Mix it in with all the other ways you socialize and potentially meet women. It’ll be more fun and you’re more likely to meet a girl you want to date.