There’s a ton of material out there around finding your passion. There’s books, tests, and even coaches that help you find your passion. It’s turned into an industry of its own. You take multiple personality tests and then it matches you up with the careers that it thinks you’d like.
When I was getting out of college I took multiple tests like this and read so many books that I could probably write one myself about finding your passion.
It gave me a few careers that I researched and I eventually decided on one.
I decided to go into advertising. Specifically, the strategy area of advertising. This is what all this reading and test-taking pointed to.
So here I am, out of college and happy that I finally found my passion. Or so I thought.
I started working in an advertising firm. One that had a great reputation and was rated as one of the best work environments in L.A. In short it was a great one to be at if you loved advertising.
What I realized after 3 months is that I absolutely HATED advertising and everything around it. I hated working from 9-6pm when I felt like I probably did about 4 hours total of actual work there per day. The rest was waiting between assignments and “meetings”.
I put meetings in quotations because in my opinion 99% of those meetings didn’t have to happen and the other 1% could have been talked out in 10 minutes. Yet, we were constantly in 30 minute meetings.
What I realized is that all these materials out there that promise to show you what your passion is are complete b.s.
I also realized there’s a much better way to find out what you want to do.
It’s finding what brings you flow.
What does that mean?
It means finding what activities you do, that when you do them you lose track of time. You’re so absorbed in doing them that you forget about anything else. You’re not counting the time like you are when you’re in a job that you hate. You’re not waiting for it to be 5pm on Friday so you can finally live. You’re not living for the weekends.
This is what’s called living a half-life and every human being innately wants to live a fulfilling life. It’s one of the things we all have in common.
Henry David Thoreau sums this up:
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.
Most live a life of quiet desperation. They give up on trying to find the things in life they find fulfilling. They settle for mediocre relationships. They settle for careers that are “safe”. All the while feeling like something’s missing.
This is incredibly sad.
One of the things we spend the majority of our life on is our career.
Isn’t it important that we take our time finding something we’re excited about?
Flow is the best indicator that you’ve found it.
If the majority of the time you’re in flow then you’ve found it. You’re one of the minority that has found it, because a majority don’t even try or they give up too early.
And I get why. It’s not easy for some of us to find what brings us in flow. We think:
“I don’t enjoy anything”
“How do I find that?”
I used to belong in the “I don’t enjoy anything” camp. And I never really felt happy doing any of the careers I was doing. At best I didn’t hate what I was doing, but I knew I wanted more than just that.
I found that I love writing and I love anything surrounding dating, relationships, love, sex, and psychology.
I finally figured this out and when I did it seemed too obvious. If you start asking yourself this question it will become painfully obvious to you too:
What do I find myself talking about the most and what do I get excited talking about?
This seems really easy but it’s so important. What could you talk about for hours? What do you get excited and interested in when talking to friends?
If you start thinking about this question you’ll notice that there’s always certain areas that keep showing up.
Really think about conversations you’ve had and what it is that always pops up for you. This will give you the idea of what area you focus on.
It can be anything.
We’re lucky enough to be alive in an era where you can literally make a career out of anything and make money of anything, if you’re good at it.
There’s a guy that sells cactus designs and makes close to $10k a month. That’s right, you read that right, cactus designs.
If he can do it with that, then you really have no excuse.
What if you only love playing video games? Great, you can make money with that too. There’s people on Youtube that live off videos of them playing games with their commentary.
Look up Pewdiepie. He’s one of the biggest stars on Youtube and a multi-millionaire. All he does is video game commentary for games he plays.
And there’s so many more examples if you look.
So really stop worrying about finding your passion and start thinking of what brings you in flow.
Once you find that you can look into the specifics and what exactly you would like to do. This will obviously take time as you’ll have to try things out. You likely won’t have it all working from the very beginning.
Start experimenting and start trying things.
Finding what brings you joy and fulfillment is as important as finding the right partner to be in a relationship with. These two things will be the biggest things in your life and where you will spend the most time.
Don’t give up and never settle for a life of quiet desperation. Life is what you make it, so make it what you want it to be.
Let me know if you’ve found what brings you in flow and if you haven’t, are you still looking?