Breakups are one of the emotionally hardest things to go through. Nothing we say will magically make the pain go away, but we can make it easier and less painful. Here are some ways that you can get over a breakup:
Let’s play a little game.
Two lies and a truth:
- You deserve her.
- You don’t deserve her.
- This is a stupid game.
For the sake of all things actually entertaining, I hope you picked #3. But if not, don’t worry. The game isn’t the point of this post.
It’s no secret that we’re not fans of the whole PUA community. I think a lot of it is sleazy and downright manipulative. Yes, I learned this PUA stuff too in the beginning and it definitely worked but it doesn’t make you happy. Why you ask? Because you’re doing things that aren’t really you. You’re doing all this game playing that’s actually pretty manipulative.
This is something that most guys know but still it happens a lot. You might not even know that neediness is hurting your dating or even responsible for some of your relationships ending, I know I didn’t always know that. I thought of myself as very independent and non-needy. And what reinforced that was that in casual dating I was. Right until it got serious, then the neediness would appear without even realizing it. It took me about five relationships to finally realize that neediness was an underlying problem that I wasn’t being honest with myself about. So if I can save you guys some of the same problems or at least shorten the time it takes you to realize it, then it’s worth writing about. [Read more…] about How neediness is killing your relationships